"i'm good enough, i'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me."
my husband and i talked last night, and what he said really gave me some insight of his perception of me. in his observation he says i lack self-confidence. that's the most profound thing he's said to me. (ok, to his credit, he's said plenty profound things before, i just haven't made note of them in this blog! :-P ) anyway, this is a subject that i've been struggling with for sometime now. it is one of the driving forces behind my blog. to establish some self-confidence and put down the put-downs and . i'm tired of it, and i so is j, and probably everyone else in my life... how do i fight it? fight the self-depricating thoughts and believe what others believe about me? what can i do to have a more positive self-image? i know! this reminds me of that skit from snl: stuart smalley's daily affirmations. "i'm good enough, i'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me."
posted by jameri at
9:49 AM
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Finding self-esteem is like finding a stocked bank account that you didn’t know you had. Realizing yourself is a beautiful thing. but it really is a journey. (one I have been on for a LONG time.) It’s easy to become the masks we wear based on the roles we play (mother, wife, daughter, sister, lover, friend, neighbor…) and whether we realize it or not, we may internalize messages about our successes and “failures” based on other people’s criticism of how well we wear our masks. We hang on to those things tighter than we do the truth or who we are underneath it all. so the hjourney to finding ourselves (self-esteem) becomes undoing all of the things that made you believe you are anyone less than the brilliantly exquisite human being you are/that we are all born to be. The journey is in getting to the “knowing.” Getting to the place that you walk in the world with a posture that says you know you are loved, not only because God loves you but… get this… YOU love YOU! And in a very real way. for everything you are and all of the things you aren’t. for being in process and in progress.
Assignment for Jameri:
On a piece of paper (preferably in a journal), make 2 columns. Title the first column “myths” and the second column “truths.” In the first column, write 5 self-deprecating, negative things you may have said about yourself recently or repeatedly (i.e., I’m not good enough to succeed at…, I am not smart enough for…, etc.). adjacent to each comment, in the truths column, write the opposite of that comment (i.e., I am good enough to someday be a great…, I am brilliant, etc.). after you have 5 positive comments, write them separately all together like a mantra. Say your new mantra to yourself every day when you wake up and every night before you go to bed. Say it until you start to believe it. the next step would be to act on the things you are saying to further instill this new belief. Start to replace the negative things you say about yourself with positive truths, because the joke is, all of those things are most likely lies you were fed or you believed based on something outside of yourself. you ARE beautiful and talented and how could anyone in their right mind NOT like you? But you have to invest in liking and loving you more, that’s all that is. find the beautiful you for you. Love Jamerie as much as Jamerie loves the people she chooses to love. you are a superb individual and you have the right (the obligation to yourself and to your Creator) to know that and live inside that knowing.
Ps—this assignment is based on loving assignments I have received from mentors and books over the years, so I cannot claim the brilliance behind it. but I know I am on the same journey and I know things like this help. we don’t listen to the things we tell ourselves often enough. And when we do, we don’t divorce ourselves from the untruths we have married ourselves to, for so many years. The good news is, we have the power to change, to blossom, to become…
luv 2 u,
shia
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still grooven, at Thu Sep 22, 09:43:00 AM CDT
sistagirl, thanks for your friendship and insight. it's good to know i'm not alone on this head-trip... hey, i'll be your cheerleader if you'll be mine... much luv 2 u 2
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jameri, at Thu Sep 22, 11:55:00 AM CDT
ABSO-TIVELY! POSI-LUTELY!
Gimme a "J!"
Gimme and "A!"...
;-)
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still grooven, at Thu Sep 22, 03:00:00 PM CDT
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